Family is the one thing you cannot run from. With them come several expectations, whether it is for your school or work life, traditions, and sometimes even the person you get to marry someday. There are instances when these expectations cannot be met, especially when the demand is unreasonably high. Here are several ways to handle it and how to cope.
Have A Serious Talk With The Family:
It is normal to feel pressured at times when your parents or siblings are forcing you to act or do a certain way. But when it creates stress that impedes with your quality of life, or you are always anxious because of it, go and talk to your family. Gather them on a family meeting and try to explain the following things.
- You Are A Different Individual- Some parent’s think that their children are carbon copy of them. Because of that, they tend to forget that their kids have their own choices and interest. Remind your parents that you are your own person and you need to experience and see things differently.
- There Are Demands That Make You Uncomfortable- Be honest with your parents. Are they demanding too much? If so, is it making you uncomfortable and depressed? By voicing out your concerns, your parents will see that they are pushing you to your limit.
- You Will Try To Do Your Best- Just because you are disagreeing on a certain expectation do not mean that you will not do your best on it. Explain that to your parents so they will have peace of mind.
When Expectations Are Not Met:
After trying and failing, people tend to lose confidence on themselves, especially when they see that their parents are disappointed. But the important thing is you tried and did not give up. As long as your family sees that, everything will turn out fine.
Expectations are placed by the family because they want you to succeed in life. Sometimes these things are meant to push you to be a better person. In other times, they create problems that put you in so much pressure. This is when you have to place your feet firmly and do the advice above.