After picking yourself up from the stress and heartbreak of divorce, you have finally founds yourself a new man. Before you ride on your white horse towards the setting sun, aren’t you forgetting something? The children! Yes the children. You need to introduce your new boyfriend first and set things straight. Here is how to do it.
Inform The Kids Prior To The Meeting
It is always better to let your children know that you have been dating prior to introducing a new guy. Do not make the mistake of bringing your boyfriend home when your kids are clueless because that will start a war. Your children will dislike the guy because you betrayed them by not telling. They will never give him a chance at all.
Do The Introduction Somewhere Fun
A restaurant may seem like a good place for the meeting. But when you think about it, the setting can be awkward for the kids. Instead, do it where there are lots of activities around. That way, your boyfriend can bond with them without being too formal. When there is less tension, the better your kids will open up.
Banish Your Expectations
Never expect anything when it comes to the introduction. Do not assume until you see things for your own eyes because it can lead to disappointment. However, do be ready for any situation that will arise. Remember that your kids may or may not like your new flame. Have a reaction ready for both scenarios.
Give Some Form Of Reassurance
It cannot be avoided that your kids will think that you are replacing their father. To prevent bad feelings about it, reassure them early on that even if you have a new boyfriend, their father cannot be replaced in their lives. They just have a cool new addition to the family.
Introducing your boyfriend to the kids for the first time can be overwhelming for both parties. There are feelings to be considered and bonds to be established. As the person in the middle, make sure that everything will turn out right by following the tips stated.