When one is asked about a personal life goal, most people include having children on the list. So what then will happen if a couple is not able to have kids due to circumstances such as infertility? It is hard and rarely talked about, but it does occur and should not be a cause of shame. To help you and your beau, here are some ways to cope with it.
Acknowledge and Admit Your Feelings
Different people have varied reactions about not having kids. Some of them are perfectly fine with it. Believe it or not, there are still individuals out there who do not wish to have children. You may belong to them, making it easier, but if you are not, admit that you are in grief. Denial will only prolong the suffering.
Get Support From Your Significant Other
After learning of your inability to have kids, you do not have to go through the pain alone. You and your husband are a team. Thinking that both of you are in this together will make acceptance easier.
Be Happy With Your Freedom
Having children is great but it comes with tons of responsibilities. Because you are not burdened by those challenges, you can enjoy your freedom more. Instead of taking care of the children, use the opportunity to deepen your connection with friends, family, your husband, and most importantly, yourself.
You Are Not The Only One
Around 8 to 12 percent of the world’s population are either infertile or have trouble conceiving. This means that you are not the only one in this situation. If the other couples have faced this problem and got through it, so can you.
Find Other Means
Giving birth to your own child is not the only choice out there. You can still adopt. By doing so, you can have a kid you can love and help a homeless and parentless person out there become happy in your family.
Infertility does not make you less of a person. Because of that, it should not affect your relationships or make you give up in life. Instead, use it as a reason to spread love and happiness around.